Stop Looking For Love
Love is the one resource I know I will never lack, which is deeply comforting and also terrifying. Yes, this is a new development. I yearned to be loved by someone my whole life, but then I realized that I am surrounded by so MUCH love that it literally causes jealousy! This love is so strong that it stops relations from moving any further because people recognize the depth that I hold from being beloved. It’s a beautiful thing that I didn’t fully understand until I was twenty [redacted] years old. Which is why I think you should hear this too if you’re a yearner and a natural lover girl.
As someone who has a bad habit of being single, it gives me a little bit of a god complex. I don’t really care for dating; I love my friendships, and I’m not confident that any romantic love with people my age could ever match the level of depth that I require. I’m disgusted by the nonchalance that plagues our dating field. And am I sometimes complicit in it? Yes, but after years of yearning to be loved, I’d rather spend time loving myself and cultivating platonic and familial love.
Why am I spending time trying to be picked by unspecial people? Why am I trying to connect with someone who is so out of touch with themself? I’ve already spent most of my life single, so what could these non-initiaters really do for me? I want to believe that these issues will get better as people mature, but I know from talking to my older friends that nothing really changes except for people having divorces, ex-husbands, and children.
So what do you do? I think you push yourself to look at the love that is present in your life. Once you start to realize that love is smaller than you think it is, you really let go of looking for it in a partnership. You’re free to approach love from a position of abundance, not lack. Love is in a borrowed t-shirt, an extra coffee, and volunteering to drive; it doesn’t have to be dramatic.
These thoughts are empowering, but you also have to be careful, as you still run the risk of never connecting with anyone, ever! If you’re too guarded, you give yourself an energetic chastity belt that can block love, money, and abundance from flowing into your life. So, have your rules, but be open. Stop looking for love, but also give and accept it freely.
And if you meet someone truly special, you can re-assess and let them be the exception to all of your rules. If you KNOW you’re someone really special, you can also leave me a comment, and I’ll take you out on a date ;)
